- You should always offer your seat to an older person.
- It's not polite to make derogatory comments about someone's home when you visit.
- Never, ever comment on someone's weight unless they bring up the subject; even then, be polite and positive.
- Never ask a woman her age.
- Never ask a man either.
- Hold the door for those following behind you.
- Be sure there is enough for everyone else when you fill your plate.
- Don't ask for seconds.
There are many more of these. What are some things that you think everyone should know?
I am wondering if the "rules" I know still apply. Do parents still teach these to their children? Or is there a new set of rules today?
What prompted my thoughts was the recent documentary by Diane Sawyer that supposedly studies the poverty of the Appalachians. People here are up in arms: she came here, a visitor who was raised in Kentucky, and was treated well. Yet she made a documentary that revisits all the old stereotypes without showing that the many-dimensional face of mountain people. We have poverty; we have problems. We also have lively cities, educated people, thriving industries, and timeless beauty. We have a city with the lowest unemployment rate in the country, and a state that still operates with a surplus.
She missed all of those; I suppose these things are not newsworthy. I think her mother forgot to teach her rule #2 above. Don't visit someone and talk bad about their home. That's bad manners.
Shame, Diane. Shame on you. You missed the real story of the mountains and used your opportunity to drag out the old trash.