|Mom, always the English lady.|
"That Lucy and Desi, they're so common. I don't want you girls watching that show."
"Tea must always be served in an English teacup, dear, with a saucer. And milk and sugar. And brewed in a teapot."
"Depression glass is just cheap glass."
"China made in Japan is no good. Not worth wasting money on."
"Wrap that baby up! Poor little thing is freezing."
That was my mother talking. Her opinions, lightly and carelessly dropped, shaped my view of the world, of housekeeping, gardening, and child-rearing. I followed her rules and her lead, and only recently realized how much she influenced my own likes and dislikes.
|My English granny, Naomi Florence Hagger, who was visiting us in Centreville, VA, on her 60th birthday when this photo was taken. Granny's tastes and opinions probably had just as strong an influence on my mother as Mom's did on me.|
|This was taken at our second home, in Manassas, on the occasion of Mom and Dad's 35th wedding anniversary. I do believe this is the on;y photo I've ever seen of her drinking anything but tea!|
It was surprising to realize when she passed away how many of her likes and dislikes she passed on to her daughters. We all love crystal, silver and flowery English teacups. We all grow flowers, have an apron tucked away somewhere in our kitchens, and most of us still drink tea with milk and sugar. For a long time I did not watch the Lucy show or the Mary Tyler Moore show either ("Common," Mom sniffed). To this day I cannot watch movies with violence or children being hurt, and I'm a fan of happy endings.
|Mom with her siblings, gathered around her mother, probably sometime in the early 1980's|
|My sisters and I in 1991, at my brother John's wedding. As usual, the photographer had a rough time getting us organized.|
|Mom and I, 1988, at my son Jon's wedding. (and I thought I was fat then! Geez,)|
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