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Showing posts with label Dad. Show all posts

Sunday, June 18, 2023

To Dad on Father's Day

A post from 2007, slightly modified. 
I still miss him just as much. (Sorry about the extra spaces below the photo, Blogger won't let me delete them. )




















It is strange 
to not pick up the phone,
call to thank you
for being my father.
I remember the handmade cards,
ten-cent hankerchiefs,
carpenters pencils,
carefully wrapped
gifts from your little daughter.

All those years, recalled today
through the veil 
of sorrow.

I miss you, Dad.

The only gift 
I can give you now
is passing on your stories
so that your name remains,
fresh and alive,
in family memory.



Monday, November 11, 2019

A Veterans Day Salute



My annual Veteran's Day post, with some new photos of the vets in our family.

To all veterans, whether you chose to serve or were drafted, thank you. As the mother of soldiers and airmen, I know a little of what it took and what it still takes from you. And to all the families of our veterans, thank you too. You also gave much.


(Updated 2019): Above, son Derek with his daughter Haley, after she joined the Army National Guard. She's now a Sargeant. 

Below, Derek at his promotion ceremony in June when he was promoted to Sgt. Major. (Update 2019: He was Command Sgt. Major when he retired in 2016)


One of my favorite photos of Derek, when he was in Iraq: 

Had to keep practicing that golf swing, even in the desert!

My father, who served in England during WWII, and met my mother there:




These photos are from post-World War II. Dad is in the front on the first one.



On the ship coming back to America after the war.

Dad and friends, goofing around--Dad is in the center bottom of the photo.
 Post-war Germany, so damaged. How sad is this? And yet wars continue. Mankind never learns from his past mistakes.


Dad at Dachau, where he helped with the post-war cleanup. No matter how grim, he was always able to find humor it seems! We did find a stack of photos taken inside one of the camps (I think it was Dachau, but cannot remember now). I could only look at the first two--they were too terrible.

Dominick Connelly, my father's great-grandfather, who served in the Union Army during the Civil War, serving as a dummer. He was imprisoned once at Harper's Ferry, or in that region, and I believe he might have been injured once too.(Update 2019: my sister Judy discovered that Dominick was sent to Andersonville, where he somehow managed to survive terrible conditions).

My mother's Uncle Sidney Wilson, a British soldier who was killed in 1917 in World War I, before she was born.

And her uncle James Wilson, killed in 1915, just a few weeks after this photo was taken:



Back in the US:

My grandfather, William I. Connelly Sr, who served as a lawyer for the Coast Guard during World War II.



My father, William I. Connelly Jr, who served in the Army Air Force in England during World War II (and also in Europe when the war was over).


My husband Larry, a Vietnam War veteran, above; and below,


my son Jonathan Ford who served 10 years in the Army before a medical issue forced his early retirement.



Above is my son Aaron Ford who served 4 years in the US Air Force;

and below is our son Tommy, who also served in the US Air Force.



Update 2019: below is grandson Clayton who is serving in the US Navy.



To all our soldiers, my profound gratitude and respect.


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Sunday, June 21, 2015

Remembering Dad

I am remembering my father on this day, my 64th birthday. He was 28 years old when I was born, and he left us 55 years later. In the last year of his life I came to know him better than I had in all the past years and I am grateful for that year of grace.

A few photos of this intriguing, complex, stubborn, intelligent, funny, talented, creative and loving man:














And as I last remember Dad, taken a couple years before he passed away.



Missing you always.

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Monday, January 17, 2011

Primroses

 My father, at age 83 and walking with a walker
asked my sister to stop at the garden center 
so he could pick out three primrose plants--
one deep yellow, one indigo, and one of the brightest rose.
With my sister's help he planted them by his garden gate
where he would see them every time he looked out the window.
He did not get to see the flowers the following spring;
he rested with them beneath the winter's snow.
The primroses returned to bloom and bloom again
and Dad's memory, like those bright flowers
shines each time I see a primrose
blooming by a garden gate.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Mardi Gras and New Orleans Memories

My father and his father (William I. Connelly Sr), we believe, at 1427 Gr. Rue St. John, according to what is written on the back. I would guess this photo to be late 1920's to early 30's. The wording may not be correct, since the writing was very faded, but this is what Julie thought it said. The family must have lived there for a little while, although I do not recall Dad talking about it. Maybe a family reader of this blog knows more?

It's Mardi Gras! I'd like to be celebrating but instead I will be at work.

Today's photos were found in my father's things when he passed away. Dad grew up in New Orleans on Thomas Street. Miraculously, the house he grew up in was unscathed by the recent hurricanes. As a boy, Dad said, he loved Mardi Gras. They always dressed and marched in the parade. Below are some pictures of those long ago days.

Dad (William Irving Connelly), my aunt Hester Ellen Connelly, and my Uncle Bud (John Wilbur Connelly). I would guess them t


Aunt Ellen, all alone and very cute. I wonder if she is a clown, or perhaps Tinkerbell?


Aunt Ellen, we believe, with her Aunt Mary Charlotte Becker, also known as Sister Veronica of the Poor Claire Cloister in New Orleans. Although my father's family was originally from the Washington DC area, they ended up in New Orleans due to my grandfather's work with the government. When they moved to NO, Grandpa was a lawyer with the government, and I think his position had something to do with trains. Later when the US joined World War II Grandpa became a Commander in the Coast Guard and handled several important cases in his career, the most high-profile probably being the explosion at Texas City in 1947.
The Poor Claires, year unknown. I am not sure which is my great-aunt in this photo. how my great-aunt came to be a nun at this convent I do not know, but she was there prior to my grandparents moving to NO. A bit of serendipity, I think, and probably made living so far from other family members less painful for all. I remember sending letters to Sister

Aunt Ellen as a teen, dressed as William Tell, according to Dad. We are not sure of the date of this photo, but I believe it must have been taken in the mid-1930's judging by her age. Later Aunt Ellen would earn a chemistry degree, among others, and go on to be a food editor for Good Housekeeping. She is still living today, but suffers from Alzheimer's disease. You might run into her name in older copies of Good Housekeeping cookbooks.

Dad dressed as a clown, circa 1926? He was born in 1922, and he looks about 3 or 4 years old here.


Aunt Ellen, Dad and Uncle Bud, probably the same year.


Dad as a teenager, in his favorite costume. When I was young he still loved to dress up as a pirate at Halloween. I think this may have been the same year as Ellen's teenage photo above, probably 1934 or 1935.
The family left New Orleans in 1942 and returned to the northern Virginia-DC area, where Dad enlisted in the Army Air Force that started him on the journey to meet my mother in England.
If anyone can supply additional information about these photos or the family's time in New Orleans, I'd love to hear it.

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Reaching Back with Old Photos

Here are more photos from my mother's collection. All of these, with the exception of one, were taken during her childhood and teen years in the area around Caldecote, England. Mom's teenage years were defined by World War II, and her future was decided by the placement of an American air base at Steeple Morden.

My mother is the baby in this photo from 1927 (the year she was born) or 1928. I'd guess 1928 would be more likely, because she was born in June and she looks fairly grown in the picture. I don't know who is holding her--Aunt May, her oldest sister, perhaps? or her mother?


At three years old--look at those cute little shoes! The coat and hat look very similar to one I wore in photos from my childhood.


Mom with a favorite pet, Sunshine, in 1936.


And swimming at "Skig Ness" in 1936. I have not been able to find where this place is (but "ness" is surely in Scotland, isn't it?) , but it looks like a beautiful place to swim.


The road to Caldecote in 1944. This would have been the road Dad followed when he tried to find the red-haired English girl he met at a Cambridge tea shoppe. Here's the story:

Dad was a young American soldier stationed near Cambridge with the Army Air Force. He visited a local tea shop on leave one day. My mother and her mum were in line with him, and he started up a conversation. To hear Dad tell it, he fell in love immediately. They invited him to have tea with them; he accepted. Afterwards they went shopping, and he was invited to go with them--and he went, of course.

I asked him one day what they were shopping for, and he said, "Oh you know, ladies undergarments and things like that."

"In front of YOU?" I was stunned.
"Oh no, no," he said. "I mean they were looking at things..."

Ahem.

Anyway, Mom told him about a dance that night in Caldecote, her village. Would he like to come?

Dad was so excited he said yes immediately, and returned to the base on cloud nine. He got cleaned up that evening and headed to Caldecote. It was about that time he realized he didn't know the name of the girl he'd met. He went on into Caldecote, determined to find her. As he entered the village, he met a man and asked, "do you know where a beautiful redheaded girl lives around here?"

"Oh yes," the man said. "Turn right, and it's the last house on the left." Dad hurried down the road and followed the man's directions. When he reached the last house, he knocked confidently on the door. He'd found his English beauty!

But the lady who opened the door...well, she was no lady, or as Mom would say, she was no better than she should be. Dad made hasty apologies and beat a retreat. He was forlorn. He had no idea how to find the girl he'd met.


As he retraced his steps to the main road, he saw her. She was coming down the road with her mother, on her way to the dance.

What intervened to bring them together, I do not know, but come together they did, on August 5, 1944. Their lives changed forever from that chance meeting.
This is the place my mother grew up, a cottage on a few acres called Ashlyn. I do not know how long they lived there; it is where they lived when her father died. They owned the cottage and the land. Her father had been the manager of a "pig fahm" as Mom would say. After his death, her mother became the housekeeper for the farm owner and they moved to the farm, renting out Ashlyn, as I understood Mom's story. I'm sketchy on the details of those years.

For example, my granny was a single mother, raising four children. How did they survive? Mom did not tell stories of great deprivation. She told me once that Granny received money from the government, and perhaps some insurance money? I do not know. What Mom told me sounded like she grew up very happy and enjoying life in rural England.

Mom is on the left, Granny in the center, and an unknown child on the right in this mid-1930's photo. I am surprised my Granny did not remarry for so many years; I think she looks lovely here. But she was 63 before she met George Swindells and married him. I remember when they came to visit us after they were married. I believe I was 12 or 13. He was a happy man who seemed to enjoy being around our large family; he had a thick accent and I would have to interpret for him when we went shopping. Clerks did not seem able to understand that "strawbry ahyce" meant strawberry ice cream.


The back of this photo says "raising money for the Tommies, 1945." I suppose it must have been some sort of play? The X is over my mother's head. At this time, she was already married to my father.

And last for this series, the young couple honeymooning on Skyline Drive in Virginia in 1946, after Dad returned from Europe. How young and happy they look here! Skyline Drive was always a special place to them, and to us as we grew up. When I look at this picture, I seem them as they last were together, old and suffering from many ills, but still just as much in love as they were in 1946.

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